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Hilary Dumitrescu's avatar

Cara—I felt your post my bones. If it helps at all, my husband have been married for 23 years this June. During that time, we have been dead broke, made a bunch of money in corporate jobs, got laid off (when I was 6 mos pregnant), decided to start freelancing, had to move back in with my parents, eventually built a booming business, and watched it crash in the last five years with the rise of AI. So we’re broke again.

Like you, we have special needs kiddos. The one thing I can tell you is this: it will NEVER be a bad decision to spend more time with those babies. Money is ephemeral; time and devotion are eternal. Our daughter just went off to college and our younger kiddo is on a good trajectory to get there as well, but thank God we’re still not working “traditional” jobs because he needs us. You’re a good mama and you’re doing it all right.

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Untrickled by Michelle Teheux's avatar

I lived like this for years. I expect to deal with it again in my old age.

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